Practice & Recovery
These books bridge lived experience, professional insight, and feminist research. They’re written for survivors, practitioners and professionals navigating the complex realities of domestic abuse, in services, in systems, and in the self.
My books speak to both sides of the work: practice and recovery, system and self, theory and life.
I’m Free…and Freaking Out!
You’ve left. You’re free — and you’re absolutely terrified.
Leaving abuse isn’t the end of the story, it’s the start of a new chapter. I’m Free… and Freaking Out is a survivor’s guide to life after domestic abuse and coercive control, the shaky, hopeful, confusing space between survival and freedom.
This practical and compassionate book helps you move from panic to power, from fear to freedom, and from surviving to thriving.
With compassion, humour, and real-world advice, you’ll learn how to:
Feel safe in your own body and home again
Manage anxiety, guilt, and trauma after abuse
Rebuild confidence, self-esteem, and emotional strength
Recover your health and sense of identity
Reconnect with children, friends, and community
Rebuild finances, housing, and stability
Plan a new future on your own terms
Perfect for anyone navigating healing after abuse, starting over after coercive control, or recovering from emotional trauma, this is the companion you need when freedom feels frightening.
Whether you’re still shaking, quietly proud, or somewhere in between — this book meets you where you are.
You’ve survived the worst. Now it’s time to live the rest.
Pernicious Coupling
Reframing Domestic Abuse and the Bonds That Bind
Domestic abuse is often described in terms of power and control, yet the lived reality is far more complex.
In Pernicious Coupling, readers are invited to look beyond familiar frameworks and examine how abuse becomes entangled with care, confusion, obligation and hope.
Drawing on years of frontline experience and feminist scholarship, I explore the invisible bonds that keep survivors trapped, not only by perpetrators, but by the emotional, social and cultural narratives that surround them.
Through accessible analysis and reflective insight, this book reframes domestic abuse as a process of coupling: the gradual knitting together of control, dependency and identity, and shows what it takes to uncouple from those dynamics.
Written for professionals, advocates and survivors alike, Pernicious Coupling offers both understanding and direction: a fresh lens for improving practice, deepening survivor self-awareness, and building responses grounded in empathy, clarity and freedom.